When your partner cheats, you might be wondering if a post-cheating relationship is even possible. The answer isn't crystal clear. There's a whole mix of factors at play!

Here are a few of the questions you need to ask yourself as you try to decide what is the best option for you, your partner, and your relationship:                                               
1. Do you want to stay in the relationship? This is often the most obvious, and the most difficult, question to answer. You know yourself, and your partner and how you truly feel. Rebuilding a relationship after infidelity will take a lot of time, a lot of patience, a lot of trust, and most of all, a lot of love. Give yourself plenty of time with this question, for a while you are likely to go back and forth with an answer. 

If you don't feel like you can honestly bring those traits to the table you will probably not be able to stick with it long enough to heal the wounds. It might be best to just call it quits.                                                                                                                                    
2.Reflect on your connection. Even though nobody has the privilege to be unfaithful, can you think about the aspects that were causing pain and dissatisfaction in your relationship, leading to this point?

3.Can you envision a new future together? You once could see your future with your partner laid out in front of you. After coming to the realization that your spouse has thrown out those plans, can you see yourself creating a new future with them? 

4.If your spouse cheated on you, chances are communication between the two of you was severely lacking. Will you and your partner be able to open up and be honest with each other going forward? 

5. Will you be able to get past what you might not be able to get over? For most people the act of cheating on a spouse is the ultimate betrayal. The hurt that you experience will always be there. Can you see yourself being able to get past this hurt to rebuild the relationship?

It will take time: No one should expect to fix a broken relationship in a few weeks, or even a few months. Building trust the second time, after someone has already betrayed you , is even harder than building it the first time.

You have to allow yourself time to get some clarity so you can decide what you want to do.

So, if your partner has cheated and you want to decide if a relationship after cheating is still possible, just consider some of these points. Going through infidelity in a relationship can be one of the most painful and difficult things you will ever go through.

But you will get through it, and it's important to try to make the best decisions you can so that you will be able to find happiness, with or without your partner, in the future.